yeah but if you join, and your friends join, and they’re friends, you know what nevermind

[Edit] holy shit people I get it, people like it small, take it easy it’s just a meme, don’t need to keep commenting and DMing

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    Most people just wanna doom-scroll, they have no interest in having conversations.

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      You know what? I think I’m okay with the fediverse simply never getting as big and popular as Reddit is/was. Over the years, as it got more popular, I definitely noticed that the average quality of interactions I had on Reddit slowly but steadily declined. Lemmy feels like old-school Reddit, which I am honestly pretty happy about.

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        That’s what I keep saying. I keep getting told I’m wrong though, that Lemmy needs to be easier to join, and hit critical mass and become the reddit killer because that’s the only way we can exist.

        Like, no thank you. I’m happy with Lemmy NOW, I don’t need it to keep growing!

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            Depends. If instances keep going into defederarion wars over philosophical beliefs it will become really tricky to have small communities. If I like some kind of bizarre miniatures, turtle crocheting, collectible wooden marbles, etc. I shouldn’t have to worry about whether the other person I want to talk to who collects toy unicorns is a “tankie” or not. As long as the communities are moderated enough, political philosophies shouldn’t be an issue.

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              That’s kinda the point though. With Reddit you were just stuck with them. Now we can move. People make the communities, not the platforms.

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          I think some more growth would definitely be good for the community. There’s still a lot of room for growth before we even come close to being as big as early 10’s reddit.

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          There is a pretty wide sweet spot between 100k users and 100 million. I think most of us agree that Lemmy shouldn’t be trying to be a reddit killer, but that doesn’t contradict the fact that we still need to grow the userbase by orders of magnitude.

          I’m loving this phase, don’t get me wrong, but I have a feeling that by the time we hit 1 million or 5 million it’ll be even more enoyable here. We have a longggg way to go before we have to worry about becoming too big.

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          In all fairness, most people who want to see reddit killed off because they’re still mourning how shitty it became, along with the virtual backstabbing by the admins through May/June. In reality, Reddit has a decent enough mainstream foothold that it’ll likely linger on for a while, maybe even years. But the reddit we all once knew has been pretty dead for a while now.

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    I went to Reddit for the first time this month to speak up in a relevant thread about it and got a bunch of tone deaf replies about they‘d rather join Threads cause “its popular and you sound like crypto bros with the decentralised stuff” and also some “Lemmy was made by tankies” and so on.

    You know what, I don‘t care, don‘t want these short sighted people here, let them get screwed a few more times by the corpos if they enjoy it so much.

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      Yeah, I read stuff like that a while back before threads, but there was a turning point. Used to be Reddit was the place you’d downvote any post about meta, insta, or any other huge social media to hell. Now tiktok videos are upvoted to the frontpage.

      And Lemmy’s founders may not have views I like, but then again neither does Meta’s founders. At least with Lemmy if their views ever make it into code we can fork off of it

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        Funny thing is my comment was about kbin, I just mentioned Lemmy and Mastodon as an interaction, but that is their main talking point anyway, the other ones was “too complicated” and “looks shit” and some more. They clearly don‘t have any understanding of open source or forking, so I didn‘t even bother to explain.

        Also I don‘t even wanna know what ideology spez or Zuckerberg subscribe to, probably something fascist too and TikTok is also owned by tankies basically, anyway no sense in fighting that and I regret I tried, just glad I got this space with all of you to enjoy.

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          Steve Huffman (spez) is a well-known, big time doomsday pepper.

          https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/01/30/doomsday-prep-for-the-super-rich

          Some of his quotes in this article are incredibly cringe. For example:

          Huffman has calculated that, in the event of a disaster, he would seek out some form of community: “Being around other people is a good thing. I also have this somewhat egotistical view that I’m a pretty good leader. I will probably be in charge, or at least not a slave, when push comes to shove.”

          Ew

          Not a far leap, based on things he’s said, that he’s an accelerationist who is just itching to put his luxury apartment in a decommissioned missile silo to “good use.” Fuck all of these people.

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            The rich are the least useful people in an emergency. Lacking basic skills and not relating to normal people enough to lead a group.

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              Right? “Bro, you’re not treated like a leader because you have leadership skills. You’re treated like a leader because you have money and power, which would be largely useless if this political/social/economic system collapsed. Plus, you just made clear that you’re looking forward to a future with slaves. Maybe try therapy?”

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            Makes sense, he does seem like he’d have an inflated sense of self-importance and he can see all the eat the rich type of stuff on Reddit.

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      Yeah, not sure I really want all of those low-effort shit posters here. Let them pollute another community.

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      My vernacular is a bit dated, not sure if I’m a tankie, pretty sure I’m not a corpo.

      Either way, I’m perfectly happy with the community here as it exists, and if it leans toward the geek crowd I’m all for it.

      For sure, if people are looking for an alternative, and are interested, I’ll recommend it, but I don’t think we need to advocate for Lemmy to drive the masses here.

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        Tankie is authoritarian communists, so basically China/USSR/dictatorship fan. Corpo is from Cyberpunk to mean like businessmen/executives, but I like to use it for kinda hyper consumerist/capitalist people too.

        I personally do think there is more to people than their political ideologies usually, even if I get upset with some of them for it.

        I agree and I do have a feeling like it‘s a geekier crowd, similar to Reddit 10 years ago when I first went there.

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        not sure if I’m a tankie

        What are your thoughts on the mass internment of Uyghurs? Complete denial? You may be a tankie.

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      Reddit’s life blood is arguments for the argument’s sake, even when you don’t have a flu what you are arguing against or for. So it doesn’t really surprise. Besides, Reddit’s been heavily moderating positive comments about Lemmy so it may be that bias showing

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      I’m perfectly fine with this sort of hierarchy as the mainstream platforms inevitably become terrible.

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      But we do want people here. We’re extremely social creatures. Its natural we would want to recreate our virtual social spaces in a place that cannot be overrun by monetization. Keep trying! Water cuts through rock not with force but with persistence!

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        Eh, I’d rather only have people genuinely interested in exploring and sharing knowledge here. Makes it closer to the purer internet of old before “Web 2.0” came and fucked it up.

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        I don‘t feel like it myself, but feel free to try to get through to them of course. I do want more people here, but I‘m also ok with it not being that many and especially not all of the thick headed ones who need a billionaire to tell them what to think.

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          Slow growth is the key, there’s probably some left in Reddit that needs more time before they get fed up, or new Reddit users that join and then end up here.

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        1. I was quoting someone else

        2. You getting so triggered over me merely using the word tankie shows you‘re not just about “talking about wars”, but something more nefarious, which I don‘t really care for or about.

        I also don‘t think the entire nation is shit about China by the way, mainly the way the government repress wrongthink and block half the internet and kill people for protests is from my perspective SHIT. Now, judging by your style of “discussion” this will upset you even more, so I prefer to block in advance. Have a good one.

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    Honestly? I think a big issue with getting more people over here is kinda the attitude. This place is really elitist and condescending when the real reason go to threads or stick to twitter is cause

    1. Thats where their friends are
    2. The sign up+finding communities process is way more intuitive and 3) Folks over here shit on them a lot

    I like it here, its been my prefered site, but between the stale memes and elitism the Fediverse has been like the Linux of social media. Probably better, but not really worth it for the average user.

    Like, I know that wont win me any friends, but it’s the truth. People are usually going to go the path of least resistance, and Lemmy instances being confusing to navigate for an average user, or looking at Mastodon.world and seeing they banned shitposts and not understanding that they can use a different one or spin up their own is going to turn people away.

    If you want a more niche userbase that’s fine, I certainly do, but it’s wild to insult them for being stupid for not joining while actively keeping them away lol

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      This place is really elitist

      Folks over here shit on them a lot

      I feel called out. And I can’t even try and defend myself, if I’m being honest, best I could do is try to defend my elitist point of view, that people who don’t want to bother putting the slightest bit of effort really don’t have much to do here. There’s also the problem that instances can only grow so much before their home servers get strained with traffic and hosting costs soar.

      In a way, we are and will remain the linux of social platforms. Small, vocal, divided by the pettiest reasons and annoying to no end to “the normies”

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      You make good points. People could afford to be more accepting and patient.

      But it’s also inevitable that the people on a more niche platform will judge the people on a mainstream platform. That’s just human nature, and it doesn’t turn people away as much as you imply. For everyone who’s turned off by the condescension, there’s another person who’s curious whether it’s justified.

      while actively keeping them away lol

      I mean, the numbers clearly indicate that 99.99% of reddit users have never made an account on Lemmy. I don’t think people are being pushed away, I think they are simply lazy and short sighted, and also waiting for the dust to settle.

      Reddit was the most elitist site on the planet for much of its existence, and it never posed a problem for growth.

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          You seem to be an expert when it comes to elitism, so I’ll defer to your judgment.

          I am curious which social media platform you prefer?

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            Depending on the definition: twitch/youtube. If you somehow dont count both then none, just using whats handy at the moment.

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              Do you interact with peers on YouTube comments? I’ve never talked with anyone in the comment section other than the content creator.

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                Very rarely, on youtube im mostly interested in the content. Usually if i want some interaction i go on twitch.

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              Fair enough, thank you for answering my question.

              I am also hoping that the content on Lemmy will improve going forward, but that doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying it now.

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      I have nothing against people that want to use Threads, truly, and I would welcome them to Lemmy. That said, I do draw the line at federating with Threads. I’m here specifically because it’s not part of a big company. If anyone wants to enjoy that content, go for it! Just create an account over there.

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        How would being federated with Threads work? Aren’t we federated with Mastadon? I barely see Mastadon stuff, so why would we see thread’s stuff?

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    Watching this whole thing go down has made me realize that regardless of what people say, it’s not about the number of people, the quality of the experience, or anything like that.

    A lot of people actually want to be surrounded by “brands” and “influencers”. Some people even get a kick out of “hate following” people who they don’t like, which blows my mind.

    That’s why Threads feels so right to them. Threads has been designed for one thing, and one thing only: connecting companies to customers, often via influencers and eventually through traditional advertising.

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      Yup, there’s a reason all of the corporate brands immediately jumped over there, and most celebrities.

      The only reason I’d want to federate with threads would be for celebrities I follow, but even then I’m not sure if I’ll federate my instance with it. Definitely not creating a threads account by any means.

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        This. I don’t want to be on someone else’s “team” because I like to form my own opinions. I don’t want other people telling me how to manage my own head.

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      I think it is the bother of building up a new following before you get your fix of likes and other narcissistic stuff like that

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    While I definitely felt that way with Mastodon and Pixelfed, Lemmy has been an amazing replacement for Reddit so far and I like PeerTube as well, just need a solid mobile client so I can stop relying on NewPipe which does not let me sign in.

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      That’s my thing, newpipe has a really clean interface but I’d love to interact more. Might have to check out this fedilabs thing I keep seeing mentioned

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    The truck is not to tell them all the complicated shit. Just tell them it’s another social media site that you browse. Don’t need to tell them about the fediverse. Don’t need to tell them it’s independent. All that stuff is like a Naruto headband is to girls.

    They’ll discover all that stuff afterwards.

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      There is also an argument that there isn’t even a need to advertise it… in fact some of the most popular things come from people “discovering it” themselves… and even then, some would argue they hope less people discover it yo keep their small town communities.

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    Quality > quantity.

    I’m not interested in seeing cringeworthy posts or paid posts to ruin healthy conversation here.

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    Cool, the community is big enough. I’d welcome more, but I like social media better when the techies are the majority.

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    Its the same as how the vast majority of the US citizens hate both main political parties, but the majority also says “I wont vote for a third party because they could never win.”

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      Yeah but it’s true. It’s better to ensure Republicans don’t win than try to get your third party in. The problem is not the mindset of the people, it’s the first past the post voting system. If they used ranked choice voting instead, it wouldn’t be a problem.

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        Yet this endless cycle continues if we always vote for one of the big 2 rather than voting for someone we actually like.

        Ranked choice voting comes with its own set of problems. Personally I think approval voting would be best, and then Star voting after that.

        No voting system is perfect, but just about any other choice is better than what we’ve got right now.

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      This isn’t a fair comparison because there’s nothing stopping you from being on Lemmy, and the same evening watching some YouTube.

      Most US voting systems are first-the-post which results in the spoiler effect. They would be wasting their vote if they don’t vote one of the big two. (Other than areas which allow for proportional representation).

      Don’t vote for a third-party present, or governor or whatever. Y’all need some preferential voting to make that work.

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    The same problem is in politics in Germany. They vote only for the big politicians who have already a big group of supporters and so a high chance to win. Like „ I don’t vote for xyz because they have only 0.5% of voters in Germany and can’t change anything by that“ . With this attitude they also grow very slowly.

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          In Brazil we use a 2-round system where, if no one gets the majority, the 2 most voted will run the second turn. And it leads to the same problem.

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      Yeah but in that case they are right. Not voting for the bigger party that you don’t like that much could mean that another big party that you really dislike will win.

      The people are not the problem, the system that doesn’t allow them to voice their opinions through a fully democratic vote is.

      We usually talk about “democracies” as an umbrella term without regards to how their electoral and government systems actually work.

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        Bc changing the system is a challenge to the people who get power from that system.

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    Honestly, I’m fine with the normies staying on Reddit and Twitter, while all of us ‘new cool’ folks explore our rebel alliance.

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      Threads starting up just proved to me that everyone would willingly join the empire if it gave them the smallest amount of convenience. Hell they’ll pay for the empire to have less privacy and freedom if they can.

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      Exactly. And the same applies to Linux, if it becomes majority then hackers and scammers would start targeting it. This things are better off thriving in their niche than dominating the environment

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    Tell them it’s a secret club that you’ve formed with friends. Set it up for them on their computer or phone. It might make it seem fun.