• some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
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    6 months ago

    Spoke with my mother over the weekend. Told her how my partner got purse-snatched last week. She talked about rising crime. I just stayed quiet and didn’t engage, let the topic change. She’s a Trump voter, but she doesn’t get it from him. She gets it from Fox News.

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      6 months ago

      Why did you not engage her? It is this sort of silence that empowers her and other like her. I get it, this is your mother but at the same time you are allowed to voice the truth and push back a little. Not to the level of an all out ‘war’ of course, I get that, but some push back is allowed. If that doesn’t land well, there’s not a whole lot you can do but if I were you I would drop nuggets of info every single time, just to not let it pass and give the impression they are right. It needs to be uncomfortable to air these lies.

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        Engagement nearly led to the end of our relationship in 2020. I countered her shit statistic of cop-related deaths (something like less than 100 in a year) easily with a Google search. She said she would choose to believe the number she read. I just about told her we would never speak again after months of moments like that. Only by blocking all politics could we remain family.

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          I get it and I expected as much. I would not engage to heavy either tbh, I totally get your problem and dilemma. Just a simple, ‘that is not true’ or ‘you have been lied to’ and then move on. She gets to drop nuggets of indisputable nonsense, you get to drop yours. Anyway, good luck!