I’ll start. Teenage me driving up the street to hang out with friends at the mall and passed my younger neighbor and his mom. When I got back a couple hours later, the neighbor’s mom was livid - confronting me for the slight. I seriously had no idea wtf she was talking about and I couldn’t convince her otherwise.
More recent than the other posters here.
I had a job interview for a huge company that I was super excited about. I had applied to an entry-level job position, and they even contacted me and told me that my profile would match a non-entry position more closely, so my process was transferred. I was nervous, but excited!
The interview was remote, which was not usual (this was pre-pandemic! Around 2018 I believe). Once they arrived, I was surprised that they didn’t want cameras on; it was a fully audio-based interview. Whatever, I thought, I’ll just do the interview anyway.
It didn’t go very well, as I was just a silly kid straight out of university with no interviewing experience, but I thought it wasn’t catastrophic or anything. I still do. They asked me a couple of questions about my industry that I had no idea about unfortunately. I still tried to answer as best as I could, but I could tell my answers were not the ones they wanted. The dude was nice anyway and told me “that’s OK” whenever I didn’t know an answer.
A couple of days after the interview, I get a call from a very nice HR lady and she said “unfortunately you were not selected for this position, but feel free to apply for other positions in our company!”. I was a bit sad but wanted to make use of this as a learning experience, so I asked “do you have information as to why I was not selected?” or something to that effect.
She said: "let me see… It says here they were not looking for someone with your profile…
… Oh! Also, you were googling the answers to questions you didn’t know, as we heard you typing"
This broke me. I had done no such thing! I started trying to tell her that was not true (and that if it were, I would have gotten the answers right!). But I quickly realized that it was a losing battle. They had made their decision, and I was just wasting their time. If only they had turned on the camera I could have evidence that was not true. But I decided not to further sully my reputation and just said “Thank you for your time, I hope to talk to you again”.
Since I did not get that job, I applied to and was accepted into a PhD programme so I guess that was a pretty important moment in my life. I am about to finish my PhD and that company is one of my options afterward, so I sometimes wonder if they still have that lie on file.
TL;DR: I got a remote job interview, they refused to turn on the camera, then told me after the interview that I was googling the answers to questions I didn’t know, which I wasn’t. But without a camera I had no way of proving it.
My bf is convinced I have/had feelings for some other guys. Keeps pressing the issue and “Why can’t you just admit it?”. I can’t admit something that isn’t true…
Sorry to say that this behavior is usually projection. He may have feelings for some of your friends and feels guilty about it, and wants to know if you feel the same way so he doesn’t feel as bad. In his defense, he may not even realize he’s doing this. Worst case, he may be cheating already. Either way, it’s toxic behavior and I just wanted to make you aware that it’s something you should discuss and work through before it becomes a bigger problem.
Yeah I don’t think he is projecting in that sense, but I do believe he has really bad abandonment issues, that is making him “see” things that aren’t the case, maybe to have a reason to push me away before I hurt him, too… I’m not sure what to do, he’s so convinced that I’ve betrayed him already, and even if the offense is not real, the pain clearly is, and I’m not sure there is anything I can do to reassure him. It’s so painful to watch (beyond the hurtful accusations…)…
I appreciate you looking out for me, friend!
Sorry to hear that. I know what that’s like. The best you can do is keep up the reassurances and hope he can make it through this rough time. Encourage him to go to therapy and maybe get medication. In the end, change is up to him. Good luck.
When a woman tells her man he is the only person she’s attracted to it’s the opposite of reassuring.
This is reassuring: “Yes I find him attractive but I’m committed to you.”
This is definitely not reassuring: “No you’re the only man in existence I find attractive”
