• bmsok@lemmy.world
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    I didn’t know that would be offensive. I really didn’t. I thought my comment was inclusive to everyone. Can anyone tell me how to be more tactful with my words in the future?

    I have very good friends who identify as their true selves in so many ways and I love them all dearly. It would crush me if I don’t learn something from this. To me, a is part of the category I was attempting to include.

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      To me, a is part of the category I was attempting to include

      I could be wrong (and I hope @riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone will correct me if I am), but I don’t think “a” is a category. I think they were simulating a stutter. The “a- and ppl” is (I think) meant to be pausing and restarting the word “and” halfway through.

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          As an Asexual, can confirm, they’re just making a joke with a text based stutter, not referring to Asexual or Agender, such as in “LGBTQIA+” that generally refers to multiple things under the “A”.

          In the latter case, it’s left open ended for inclusivity, rather than arbitrarily excluding other things by specifying.

          As for how the original comment could possibly be more inclusive, it’s harder to say exactly, but I can think of something like “Ladies, Gentlemen, and everyone else”, but I’m not exactly great at fancy words… or words in general… but I try my best.

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            Ace is the term I’m familiar with, too. I just didn’t want to be left in the dark if there was an even more abbreviated version of the abbreviation.

    • gandalf_der_12te@feddit.de
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      Probably “third people” is an appropriate term. Like, in the cold war, there was “first” world and “second” world (not discussing which is which), but then there were bystanding parties not participating in the conflict. They used to be called “third world countries”. Happy to help