• sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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    10 months ago

    Yup, we’re the same way. My SO keeps worrying, “what if X happens? What if Y happens?” and they don’t seem to like my answer of, “we’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.” We’re quite stable financially, so we’re prepared to handle pretty much any surprise, yet she still worries about random things.

    I think some people are just predisposed to anxiety. I’m glad I don’t have to deal with that.

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      10 months ago

      Yeah we also have money to handle if something surprising happens, but somehow it doesn’t help her worries either.

      It’s not every day she worries, but when she does, it’s a bit exhausting to listen to, specially since there isn’t any action to take to fix it.

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        10 months ago

        Yup, we have the exact same problem.

        I’ve found, “I don’t know, let’s look into it” to be pretty effective at switching from worrying to problem solving, and as we go, my SO will usually get over the worrying and apologize for being dramatic. It doesn’t always work, but maybe it’s worth a shot.

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          10 months ago

          Yeah you are right, that works for me too. I guess what she really wants is someone to just listen and be supportive, and not necessarily solve the problem (since it can’t be solved also).