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if you devalue trans people in any way, including nb people, please block me

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Cake day: June 2nd, 2023

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  • See, this is what people say, but now that I’ve been reading labels I don’t believe it.

    For example, I cannot eat Kellogg’s Rice Krispies, but some off brands are made with a different formula that doesn’t include gluten and is manufactured in a safe environment.

    Conversely, I can eat Cheerios, but not most store brands, Lucky Charms but not most store brands, etc.

    And that’s just cereal! Even drugs vary wildly. Sure, the active ingredients are the same, but the other contents can really vary.

    Some foods have similar ingredients, but are either manufactured on shared equipment with wheat and dairy, or not.

    I now believe that most store brands are made in a unique environment. I’m open to being convinced otherwise, but if you need more examples, I can check my cupboard and tell you all kinds of things!




  • I was in the same situation. I started to walk and longboard every day and track my calories without exception.

    Eventually, you can see changes and it becomes easier over time, but oh boy I never shame anyone for their body size, because it’s hella hard, and if you’re coping with other problems like depression or addiction, it’s gotta feel damn near impossible.





  • The part about EXIF data is true, but they’re very upfront about this, and they have a sticky post informing people about this and instructing them how to remove the EXIF data themselves. My take is that it’s just a limitation of the site design, it’s good that they inform people upfront, and removing EXIF data a useful thing for people to learn how to do regardless.

    As far as privacy is concerned, I’d say that yeah – they’re very pro-privacy. You can still connect with people, though. I’ve met some people on raddle who I’ve actually chatted with off site. So I wouldn’t say it’s anything more than the privacy culture here.

    The one thing that sometimes turns people away from raddle is that people on the site tend to have very well-read and carefully formed opinions, and they can sometimes come off as being aggressive and confrontative. But even the people who may come across like that at first are actually very empathetic, once you spend more time there and observe how they interact.

    I’ll just say this: I’ve personally not seen anything on raddle that would turn me away from using the site, and I’ve been there off and on since leaving reddit in June.




  • This was a good read, thanks. I’ve known so many people who have separated from their parents, and every single one of them has a good reason. I’ve often wondered how the parents tell it from their side. I’m sure every single one of them was “loving” and “nurturing” by their own account, even the dad who couldn’t accept that his son was gay, or the parents who perpetually and deliberately misgendered their daughter. I’ve known so many such cases, and sadly some have ended in tragedy.

    Me, I’ve had good parents, but I have a brother who’s an abusive asshole who I want nothing to do with, and occassionally I get the “he’s your brother, you’ve got to love him” schtick from third parties. No. I really don’t.

    No one is obligated to stay connected with family who are hurtful, especially when it’s the parents who were the ones who chose to bring you into this world. It’s massively unfair for people to expect that we just tolerate, even love, abusive family.





  • This is in Minnesota. When I was a kid, I begged my parents to drive to see it. They rented a room at some motel in Bemidji and made a weekend of it. The highlight of my trip was seeing the huge Paul Bunyan and Babe statues.

    I thought they were so great and it was like they came to life out of a book, but now that I see them again… holy shit lmao


  • Yeah, I was on that sub as well, occasionally. I respect Bardfinn, the lead mod of AHS, but they used to tell me that accounts were restored on appeal if moderators retaliated by reporting users for “abusing the report button,” but my appeal was never accepted, and it was a clear instance of mod retaliation. I finally shared that experience when I was on my way out of the site for good.