Keelah Se’lai.

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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I’ve worked retail, office jobs, call center jobs and warehouse jobs. I made an office ‘friend’ in two of those jobs. One who id grab drinks with outside of work and another who id chat to via text occasionally. But as our jobs changed and lives moved on. So did we.

    I don’t feel the need to be forced into social situations, people are tiring and there’s better things I could spend my time on that being shoved into a room with co-works who I have no interest in talking to and have no interest in talking to me.

    Both my best friends are long distance friends. I’ve known one for 13 years, we’ve met up once. And one for 9 years who I’ve never met in person. And they’re the best friends I’ve ever had. If they have issues, I’m right there via text or call to help. Same if I have issues. We send eachother gifts for birthdays/ Christmas, or just because. The 9 year friend and I do a book trade and recommend eachother things we think the other would like (not just book recommendations).

    My partner and I have been together for almost 2 years now, we live in different countries. And it’s honestly the best relationship I’ve ever had. Not because of the distance, we visit eachother multiple times a year. But the distance also isn’t an issue.

    So long distance friendships/ relationships can work.

    Just because some people need that face to face interaction, doesn’t mean everyone else does. Especially when it’s forced by a workplace. If it was to meet up with a friend, I’m sure it would be more welcomed. But being made to meet up with co-workers who aren’t friends/ close with, that sounds miserable. Being made to do something you don’t want to do/ aren’t interested in is never fun. Ever try get a teenager to clean their room? Often not very high on their list because it’s something they don’t want to do. The same can be said for social events with co-workers for a lot of people.



  • It’s easier to hope someone will have information on an individual who’s is reported on. Someone might see the article and realise they saw her in a coffee shop with a man, looking very uneasy. And tip off police.

    Whereas homelessness is a much harder thing to tackle. That requires government intervention rather than individual intervention from someone who saw something suspicious. And getting a government to care about homeless people is a huge ask.
    I hate that we have a homelessness issue, and I hate that it’s not reported on much at all. Things should be in the public eye, in hopes that people wrote to their local rep to try get help.

    But it’s more likely you’ll find a missing person (dead or alive) by posting an article than it is likely you’ll resolve homelessness.






  • I wouldn’t mind uniforms, if they weren’t like 3 times the price of regular clothes.
    My school sweater was a blue v-neck. But it had to have the school name and logo on it. So it was £50.
    If they’d just said, v-neck royal blue sweater and let people buy their own from whatever store, that’s fine. We had specific ties too, so if they just said we had to buy the ties from the school but the PE shorts/ netball skirts, football socks, polos and the school sweater should have been able to be purchased from any old store.

    I agree, non-uniform days were hell for me. I was the kid of the working class parent, and the emo/ goth kid. I didn’t own anything that wasn’t fitting of my aesthetic. So I got bullied badly. So I appreciated the uniform. But the prices are the issue. And school that demand girls wear skirts and not trousers, I have a huge issue with that. If girls want to wear trousers, it shouldn’t be an issue. It makes me question whether the people implementing the rules are just sexist, or sexist and pervvy.


  • Public schools here are insane. It’s like £50 for one sweater. And it’s got to have the school name/ logo on it. So you can’t just go and buy a generic sweater the same colour.
    And you’ve got to have at least 2, so when one is getting washed, you’d have one good to go.
    There’s black shoes, not trainers, but smart shoes.
    White shirts. Black pants/ skirts. Specific socks. £15 a tie, which is specifically in school colours so no going out to buy a cheap generic tie.
    Then there’s the PE kit that has to be bought from the school. £20 for shorts. £20 for the polo. £10 for football socks.

    Altogether when you’re done it’s around £300. Which, if you’re generally working class/ out of work, you’re fucked.
    My sweaters faded after half a year, so mum had to buy more. They’d of fit me the entire time, but she had to buy new ones pretty much every 6 months because they just faded in the wash. And that was in the 00s. My mum hates buying uniform for my younger sisters, apparently it’s crazy priced.
    Now schools here are doing blazers too, god knows how much they are.


  • You assume that because I play games that I’m a young boy?
    I’m a woman in her 30s. Ive been playing games since I was 4. Ive played sega, Nintendo, playstation, Xbox and pc games. I also play d&d.
    I play a wide range of games from Pokémon, Zelda, animal crossing to doom, overwatch, diablo, the dark pictures games, Alan wake, baldurs gate, mass effect, slay the spire.
    I’m not playing due to corporate manipulation. I play because I want to play, because I enjoy engaging my brain and being able to focus on something fun. So please, continue to shit on things people enjoy instead of actually focusing on the things you enjoy.


  • I’m a die hard Nintendo fan. Been playing Nintendo since I was like 4.
    Pokémon is one of my favourite gaming series ever.
    However, I also play games that are basically Pokémon but with a different name. So long as there’s not actual copyright being broken, who cares? Pokémon is an insanely successful franchise, if other companies want to try using the idea for their games in hopes of success. Go for it! It’s fun seeing all the variants.
    I get why people hate seeing their favourite game ‘ripped off’, but if Nintendo see it as an issue, they’ll deal with it themselves. People need to chill out, I’m pretty sure Nintendo are capable of fighting their own battles. It’s not like they’re a small company of 10 people who might of not seen the game.




  • I’m an introvert. And was as a child too. Talking to friends via msn messenger was my preference. If my mum had of removed my technology I’d of had no way of talking to my friends that was comfortable for me, it basically forces face to face social interaction if you want to talk to people.
    Which triggered an anxiety response and made me very tired.
    So I imagine banning tech from children will result in introverted children having to be in situations they don’t enjoy and not being able to feel comfortable communicating in ways they are comfortable.
    It could result in children just shutting themselves away because they dont enjoy the face to face. Which can result in depression. But forcing them to be uncomfortable in social situations can result in serious anxiety and even more discomfort in social situations, if you’re forced into something it can create more of a distaste for that situation/ thing.
    The times I was dragged to things with my mum, it made me hate parties etc all the more and my anxiety about them got worse.
    Whereas if it’s something I chose to do for myself, it had less of a negative effect on me than if it’s something I was forced into.
    So if introverted children prefer texting, messaging etc then you take that away from them, it can result in them having to do things they aren’t comfortable with, which can have an effect on mental health. As it’s forcing them into different things they don’t really want to be doing.


  • I worked for them a few years ago.
    Try using a browser, if that doesn’t work, clear the cache and cookies and try again. If it still doesn’t work, try a different browser (the one they’d usually recommend was Firefox). If that doesn’t work, customer service should be able to remove it for you.

    The system is dumb, the security system is automated and did weird shit at times. One of the error codes in the document we had was labelled as ‘WTF happened?’
    So yeah. PayPal are kinda wang sometimes.


  • I worked for them. I’ve seen their list of error code reasons. Literally one of the error codes you could get was labelled as ‘WTF happened?’ on the list.
    ‘Too many buckets’ was another one, that one made me laugh tbh.
    But they literally have like a 12+ page document of error codes and what they mean. The system is pretty buggy.
    But generally our solution was, clear cache and cookies or try a different browser. It 75% of the time worked. If that didn’t work, customer service could remove cards for you.


  • I liked it. The typeface, size and spacing made it easier to read. They included all the points in a relatively short amount of text, lots of people don’t like to read walls of text that have the points hidden in amongst unnecessary text.

    They put important points in bold so even if you skimmed you could see the important points and read that paragraph if it was what you wanted information on.

    It makes it easier for people who don’t really understand the issues, to understand what it is and why it’s wrong.

    And this autistic person appreciated the simplicity and straightforwardness of it. As I assume others would too. So it’s more accessable and understandable for people like me.



  • The rich are taxed. They pay way more than you do. They pay way more than the non rich people combined. The top 10 rich people pay more taxes than all the non rich people. So don’t come at me about taxes. Your tax contribution is basically nothing. Whereas they pay insane amounts.

    In my country. You pay 40% tax if you earn over 100k a year. Which isn’t even rich, but you basically give up nearly half your wage you work fkn hard for. So don’t try pull the tax bullshit.