FYI, the medical community is one of the worst from the popularity contest perspective.

could you write examples of is worse here than in other industries? Are some units worse than others? Some regions worse than others?

promoting team cohesion and performance is one of our primary responsibilities, as is stepping up and leading when necessary.

are you a nurse or doctor working in a hospital?

I don’t agree with your last part: it’s not my fault that a unit is controlled by lazy gossips and the manager does nothing to make a more welcoming workplace for the quiet, working ones because she either is too coward to confront the lazy bullies or enjoys the attention or believes she is not going to find better employees. I do not work with people like that anymore, nor do I socialize with these kind of people, neither it’s my job to promote performance and my paycheck sure reflects that. That’s a manager’s job.

I take this job as seriously as my coworkers. If they go smoking for an hour and let me alone to take care of the whole unit your model fails. If they spend their first 90 minutes consciously not working but gossiping and I’m the only one checking vitals and charting your model fails. If the popular and lazy ones control the narrative and paint me as the uncooperative nurse while I work and they do nothing and the manager believes them over me your model also fails. To lead up I need to see that my coworkers know their shit and that they actually do that, something I hope to find at my new unit.

This post might sound a bit abrasive, not my intention.

if OP isn’t masking then neurotypicals will likely see OP as rude, cold, or robotic.

assuming that your post is in good faith, do you understand how tiring and ludicrous it is to pretend something you are not?

Should we advice gays to pretend not being gay?

It’s not my fault some of my coworkers stopped growing up immediately after leaving high school. I just want to work and go home.

And folks who are neurotypical are going to find what you said a hard pill to swallow.

why? are people really this thin skinned?

fwiw these people I described are not the doctors, but like 40% of the nurses. Doctors are not the reason I quit, but these nurses are. I’m actually gonna miss working with some nurses here, the good ones, the drama free ones.

Often in life you have to pretend to “fit in”, it’s just the price of living in a society.

does that means listening to dumb stories I don’t care about? My brain starts yelling me to leave.

It would be bearable if they didn’t act like children (another coworker, a neurotypical one if you like, told me that).

thank you for this great advice

but don’t you hate your life or makes it very miserable and tiring?

I mean, expecting everyone to fuck me over would make me angrier I believe, like going to work and constantly ruminate about how every coworker and client is going to ruin my day.

If you are a cynic, how do you don’t ruminate?

or is cynicism more ‘no expectations no disappointments’?

You need a different manager. Distancing yourself from the one you have doesn’t sound realistic: Their job is to not be distant.

I’m lost here: what is their job?

Most of my co-workers don’t like me. My boss doesn’t even like me.

if your boss makes clear he doesn’t like you, why are you still working there and why don’t you have plans to quit?

I mean I don’t understand why this is not a reason good enough to start looking for employment elsewhere. Don’t you find it tiring? don’t your coworkers and boss wear you down?

If my boss makes clear he doesn’t like me it’s only a matter of time before he starts treating me differently, giving me the worse assignments, refusing to acknowledge me…

This would affect me to the point of starting to hate that person.

There’s something seriously off about this story, and I can’t help but think you’ve left out some significant details.

not really, but feel free to think what you want.

I’m guessing you cursed out a coworker and not for the first time.

Not what happened.

there’s a difference between cursing the poor work done by a coworker and cursing a person that was there and wasn’t responsible for the dressing.

I don’t understand why you choose not to see the difference.

lucky you

why are you so easy to trigger?

I enjoyed reading your post, but Im the laziest sob to ever walk on earth and while I can promise to pay attention, I don’t believe I’m gonna follow through.

do you have any advice for me, now that I’m applying and might work elsewhere? Is there anything I could ask during interviewing to indicate I loathe drama, people full of themselves talking politics or conspiracies or openly discussing how vaginas look like?

yes, a very beautiful post.

Lost_My_Mind: how do you do it? Because apparently I’m very thin skinned and overly political statements my coworkers blurt out trigger me or their boring marriage troubles bore me and I find myself trying to control me not to yell ‘I don’t give a f*ck about you, leave me alone’, which of course earns me an invitation with management…

I assume that’s an old pillowcase?

I’ve worked in jobs with plenty of downtime, but have never worked in one where I could just wander off to exercise or read a book openly. I was expected to be finding things to do or to at least appear busy and engaged.

good point, this changes the calculus

The only thing that maintains sanity is having something to do to distract yourself

I don’t see why reading or writing poetry don’t accomplish that

I don’t know if you’re complaining but if you are, I don’t understand you. I want to be you.

earning money doing almost nothing is meaningless? You earn money for doing nothing! and you cannot be fired, so…

do these jobs you got later pay you better?

thank you for your detailed post and the off topic bits, helpful as well