And please don’t tell me “just change jobs”.

  • BougieBirdie@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    63·
    16 hours ago

    I highly recommend Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. CBT is the best medicine I can afford, because all you need is pen and paper.

    If you don’t think you can change your circumstance, then you can try to change how you react to it. The core model of the therapy is to analyze your thoughts and look for patterns in which your brain tries to fuck with you. Identifying distortions and fallacies helps to replace your automatic thoughts with more positive ones.

    Example:

    Thought: I hate my job, everything about it sucks

    Distortions: Overgeneralization, All-or-Nothing Thinking, Feelings as Facts

    New Thought: I hate certain parts of my job, but I like X part of it

    The whole thing only works if you believe in it, and the important thing is that you’re not just putting a sunny face on things that make you feel terrible. You’re working to restructure your thought based on objective truth.

    I’ve struggled for a long time with the Sunday Scaries. Sometimes it feels like it’s never going to get easier, and I’m going through it right now, but I know if I take the time to untangle my feelings then things end up easier in the long run.

    Good luck out there, partner

    • dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
      10·
      11 hours ago

      To me, CBT has always made it feel like my thoughts and feelings are not valid. As someone who has had invalidation problems with these my whole life it makes it feel really offensive.

      I know people get great things out of it, and that’s good. But yeah not for everyone and (unfortunately??) it’s the “trendy” thing with therapy nowadays. I just wish there was a therapy modality that acknowledges one’s thoughts and feelings as valid, even if they aren’t perfect, and instead finds ways to work with them instead of against them.

      • MadBabs@lemmy.world
        1·
        6 hours ago

        CBT can definitely feel that way but maybe if you view it as a way to explore the feelings and thoughts you have an examine if you really believe they’re true, that might help? Like… Not everything you think is true. But it makes you feel some kinda way. So summertime pulling it out and examining in and looking for a new direction to take some thoughts can be really helpful.

      • BougieBirdie@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        5·
        10 hours ago

        Honestly, that’s tough, but fair. No therapeutic tool is going to be a magic bullet solution for everyone.

        My wife struggles with something similar. When we try to walk through an exercise together she thinks it’s about saying that her problems are “all in her head.” For my own outlook, I liken it to thinking that although my thoughts might be faulty, my feelings are valid. But hey, I’m not an authority, I’m just another struggling human trying to make sense of it all.

        For what it’s worth, one stranger to another, I think that whatever you’re going through you’re totally valid. I hope you find or have found some relief - goodness knows we’re still looking

      • wise_pancake@lemmy.ca
        3·
        9 hours ago

        Similar experience for me. It wasn’t that I felt my thoughts were invalid, but I didn’t feel like it was impacting me in the moment, and then every session was like “sure, that was illogical, but I still felt that at the time”.

        I’ve been trying ACT, and while I don’t know if it’s been effective yet, at least it’s helping me process and understand my thoughts better.

    • sbv@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      5·
      12 hours ago

      That’s a great example! I haven’t heard much about CBT, but that makes a tonne of sense.

  • spittingimage@lemmy.world
    101·
    14 hours ago

    I try to remember the little things I like about going to work. Drinking the good coffee I keep there. Chatting with people in the office. Driving home through the summer weather at the end of the day.

      • dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
        6·
        11 hours ago

        I’m afraid there’s nothing you can do if your job truly is that terrible. I know changing jobs isn’t easy or necessarily doable, but it seems like that’s the only “real” option.

        I like going to work every day to see some of my coworkers.

  • gravityowl@lemm.eeEnglish
    161·
    16 hours ago

    I remember reading somewhere that one of the possible reasons for that feeling might be because of the change in times.

    As in, when we go to work, we usually have to wake up early and then have our routine during the rest of the day. But on holidays/during the weekend, we tend not to follow any schedules. And then after getting used to waking up whenever we want (or later than usual), we get cranky because our body is (forced to get) used to our working schedule.

    So a solution might be go to bed at times that aren’t too different from your usual times during your working days.

    Basically, some consistency with your sleep might help.

    And please don’t tell me “just change jobs”.

    Fair. Can I then suggest a social and political revolution to change the current system in which we have to waste our lives working for rich fucks who don’t care about us?

    • QuarterSwede@lemmy.world
      1·
      6 hours ago

      This really does help. I get up at the same time every day even before my alarm goes off during the week. I have a coffee routine that I follow 7 days a week and I enjoy it. I made myself learn to cook breakfast daily (not just eat cereal) so I eat eggs and some form of toast and maybe some meat. I spend 30 min following this routine and by the time I have to leave for work I feel pretty good about the day. Being hangry and rushed when you get up makes everything suck. Change the routine.

  • Lauchs@lemmy.world
    7·
    14 hours ago

    Last time you asked for help, folks suggested therapy. Have you looked into any of the local free options? My offer of looking for you is still on the table, just let me know what state/province etc!

      • Lauchs@lemmy.world
        3·
        6 hours ago

        Okay, if you’re not American odds are much better there’s helpful services! If you give me a province/region/country, I’ll happily look into what mental health services are available.

      • NineMileTower@lemmy.world
        111·
        13 hours ago

        I think I found the real problem. You won’t get strong of you don’t lift, you won’t get fast if you don’t run, and you won’t fix your head if you aren’t willing to put in effort.

  • wise_pancake@lemmy.ca
    101·
    17 hours ago

    I’ve been on vacation since Christmas and I have been this relaxed and happy in years

    My job has been killing me the last couple years, but I just interviewed for a new job that sounds perfect for me (and I them) and I really hope I get it!

    Edit: I don’t actually have an answer to your question, but I get this feeling every week. The only thing that really helped was antidepressants which toned down my anxiety so at least I can enjoy Sunday’s without constantly thinking about work.

  • disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world
    7·
    9 hours ago

    Avoiding the Monday feel is one of the two benefits of a dynamic schedule. The other is running errands, like going to the laundromat or doing grocery shopping, on a weekday.